As the Celtic wheel turns once again, we find ourselves at the Summer Solstice in the northern hemisphere. The word Solstice is derived from the Latin words sol, for Sun, and sistere, meaning, “to stand still.” We experience the longest day and shortest night before the sun begins its slow descent towards the Winter Solstice. We get to witness Father Sun at its zenith in the sky and Mother Earth in full bloom. It’s no coincidence that right around the summer solstice each year we also celebrate Father’s Day. Not only is it a time when we honor the masculine energy of the sun but we have the opportunity to honor the man who co-created our very existence in this life.
During the past few months in my personal Shamanic practice, healing the masculine has been calling for my attention. I do believe this has been a collective call to all of us women who have been spending many hours, days, months and years reawakening and healing the feminine, not only within but without. I feel as our feminine aspect strengthens we must pay attention to your masculine aspect so that we can create more balance in our lives. During a ceremony one evening a few months back I was faced with looking deeply at the relationship I have with my own father. I do have a very loving relationship with my father and I always have, but I always carried this belief deep inside of me that I was partly responsible for my father’s happiness and health. That evening my mentor said something to me that really hit home during the ceremony. “Pain is a gift. Don’t take that gift away for him as pain can create change and growth.” In that moment that was a huge realization for me. I released in tears all of my feelings around my father’s happiness and health being partly my responsibility, which I have been carrying since childhood not only for my father but my mother. It was so liberating. This experience has changed the relationship I now have with my father. I have accepted who he is and that he is on his own life journey. I feel I can now be present with him fully and just enjoy the time I have with him. I know that this also helps strengthen the masculine within me and collectively.
I decided a few weeks ago that this Father’s Day I would honor my father in a deeper way privately. While doing a little research about the history of father’s day I read about a tradition that was set in 1910 where all sons and daughters would wear a rose to church. They would wear a red rose in admiration of a living father and a white rose to pay tribute to a deceased father. I resonated deeply with this tradition, as roses are such a loving and compassionate plant spirit. I know that I am incredibly blessed to have a loving relationship with my father, as it is not the experience for many people. I know that not all women and men have healthy relationships with their father and some no relationship at all. I invite you this father’s day no matter what your relationship to your father is, to honor and/or begin to heal this relationship by working with the spirit of the rose. If your father is still living work with red roses and if your father is deceased work with white roses. You may want to create sacred space and smudge yourself, along with the space you are in and the roses. You may ask the spirit of rose for healing your relationship, to help you forgive your father or you may ask for guidance and support in strengthening your relationship. You may use your breath and blow gratitude and love into the roses.
Here are a few ideas of how you can work with roses this Father’s Day:
- Buy potted roses and plant them in your garden to honor your father. You may want to have a reminder of your father near you everyday.
- Use the petals to make a mandala somewhere in nature. This would be a great idea if you and your father’s relationship needs grounding. Or if you have strong feelings that need help digesting as Mother Earth is happy to assist in digesting those feelings for you.
- Give the petals to a body of water: the ocean, a lake, stream or river. Maybe your relationship needs some flow or maybe your father loves the water.
- Give the roses to Grandfather fire. Fire is great for transforming energy and can bring warmth to your relationship.
- Wear a rose over your heart. You may do this because you have deep love for your father or maybe your heart needs some healing.
I encourage you to follow your intuition and heart with this.
With the sun shining at it’s highest point in our year, may this outer display of the masculine at its peak remind you to honor and heal your relationship with your father. I believe as we heal and honor the men in ours lives, we will strengthen and honor our inner masculine.
Happy Father’s Day and Solstice!