Earlier this year, I intentionally and ceremoniously cut ties with a debilitating aspect of myself I called “the Wounded Girl”. At age 52, the Wounded Girl kept me with one foot constantly in my past, never allowing me to move ahead. I decided we needed to part company. I could no longer listen to her pain, disappointment, addictions and self-loathing. I actually like myself quite a bit these days, enjoying my own company. The Girl needed to go. So, I lit a small tea light candle, reminiscing and saying good-bye while the wick burned down. When the candle went out, the Wounded Girl went with it.
I was interested in reading Sara Avant Stover’s “The Book of She: Your Heroine’s Journey into the Heart of Feminine Power” because of the experience I had with the Wounded Girl. I was hoping to learn methods to properly deal with past circumstances in ways that brought one solidly into the present. “Book of She” did not disappoint.
Your “She” is defined as one’s feminine soul and contains the source of our power, wisdom and authenticity. This is your own personal resource to the Divine Feminine. The “Heroine’s Journey” is our quest, in which we embark upon with She as our guide. I love the way Ms. Stover tells us right up front, “Do not be a voyeur” in the process. She instructs us to dig in, stay the course, roll with the punches and at the end (because there is no exit), you get a “you” that is created in partnership with your soul, which sets the stage for the life you want to live.
Some themes include: learning the value of “homecoming” when we look inward, understanding the components of matter, spirit and soul in order to be our most authentic selves, the importance of and elements involved in creating a daily practice, bringing your destructive inner critic to light, using the power of the moon and your monthly cycle to your advantage at any age and finally, emerging from all the work with a blueprint for a better you.
I enjoyed the way Ms. Stover wove true life stories with the “work” of the Journey. This book packs a lot into 277 pages and I was worried about getting bogged down. I think the author did a nice job of breaking up the text with info boxes, charts and lists. I was motivated by the depictions of our Crone phase, especially since that is where I am heading. I appreciated meeting with the Divine Feminine from many spiritual traditions.
If I was being critical, although I enjoyed the “journey”, I couldn’t help but think that Ms. Stover got to attend a lot more retreats for a lot longer than I ever will. My jealousy was addressed on page 223. Yes, I am certainly not enlightened enough:). Definitely still on the path.