My morning “began” this way at about 4am …
My Body: WAKE UP! HEYYYY WAKE UP! Our Tummy Hurts!!
Before I had a chance to clear the groggy, my Inner Voice kicked in: “I knew we should not have eaten so late. And it really wasn’t healthy. What were you thinking? Is this a food sabotage move? We can’t be healthy if you are going to shove whatever you want in your face and think that there will be no consequences …”
And it continued for about 20 minutes before I mustered the strength from my little scrunched ball to respond.
Me: “Please Shut Up, Inner Voice. Tummies are funny things. Let’s focus on Our Body and supporting healing.”
The litany from the Inner Voice paused. And shifted. “Let’s have some kefir – the Body would like that. And some tea – tea is good. While you’re drinking tea, you can get comfy and read a book. Let’s take care of the Body.”
Finally, I could agree with the Inner Voice and the Body did a hip-hip-hooray for kefir and tea and rest.
SUCCESS! Not just with the tummy but with the Inner Voice – my loudmouth critic that loves to run down the litany of all the things that I have done wrong. The Inner Voice is a know-it-all and leaps at the chance to tell me that it knew better when I had that fleeting thought that eating at 10pm was not a good idea. I have been working with my Inner Voice and trying to get it to work positively and in tandem with the rest of me.
The fact that I let it ramble for so long was a nod to my discomfort physically and also a nod to the fact that old habits are hard to break. Most of us have been living with Inner Critics, or worse Inner Haters, for most of our lives. This not a change that will occur overnight.
My Inner Voice and I have been on a mutual journey of Self Compassion to shift the Inner Voice and support the Body. Our bodies, minds and voices all need to be on the same page and focused positively on health and wellness to achieve health and wellness.
Functioning as a unit means Our Whole Self claims wellness much faster and the key components are Self Love, Self Care and Self Compassion. I can still love myself and take care of myself but I am not at optimum functioning until that Inner Voice is reflecting Compassion.
Compassion for me is the blossoming of the heart that allows the action of LOVE to flow through it. People can experience love and not compassion – in fact, that may be the origin of some of our Inner Voices – parents that loved us but used a critical voice and not a compassionate voice.
Compassion is usually related to caring for others or a cause or the planet, but Compassion starts at home. In Your Body. And Mind. AND In Your Spirit … please meet the Goddess Kuan Yin who specializes in Compassion Transformations.
The Goddess Kuan Yin is the Chinese Goddess of Compassion and Mercy. Her name translates to mean “She who hears the weeping world or the cries of the world”. Her Entire Goddess Being is Love and Compassion – one of Her stories tells of how Kuan Yin was able to pass to Nirvana and instead chose to return to Earth to help, heal, and comfort humanity – this is Her role as the Bodhisattva of Compassion.
She stands right in the center of our hearts and allows them to BLOOM. Kuan Yin is the nicest Goddess that I know. That may sound funny but many Goddesses are dualities. Kuan Yin is Compassion and Love. No judgement. No anger. She holds the space for us to maintain the emotion of love and apply it to ourselves and others.
So this is how we are going to CONQUER and ATTAIN SELF COMPASSION …
We are going to start training our Inner Voices to speak to us like Kuan Yin. In Compassion. In Love. When the Inner Voices start getting lippy, ask them: What Would Kuan Yin Do (or Say)?
Then I want you to SAY SOMETHING POSITIVE. Something that makes your heart bloom. Say it out loud, write it down and repeat it. Make this Your Inner Voice.
Don’t just Love Yourself – Make more room for MORE LOVE in your heart with Self Compassion.
Do you need some help getting started? Or maintaining? (me too!)
Here are a few suggestions:
- Write your Inner Voice’s litany down and craft affirmations to REPLACE the negative – say them as often as you need to
- Thank your Inner Voice for being willing to change – Praise Yourself every single time that you respond positively!
- Begin a mantra practice with Kuan Yin’s mantra – OM MANI PADME HUM – OM. The Jewel of Consciousness has reached the Heart’s Lotus. (hear it in the video below)
- Join the LOVE Ambassador program with Christine Arylo (which inspired this post!)
- Go to the Inner Mean Girl Reform School with Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers in April 2013
- Find out what Your Body is saying with “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay
- Like Hay House Affirmations on Facebook for fabulous Daily Affirmations
- Learn more about Kuan Yin – Bodhisattva of Compassion by John Blofeld
I am worthy of love from everyone, especially myself and I open my heart to allow love and compassion for myself to flow through me and into me.
Dear Body, while you are in pain, I will give you anything good and healthy that you want. I am thinking good and healing thoughts. I am allowing Kuan Yin and Compassion to open my heart and make more room for love and healing. WOW.
What does Self Compassion look like for you?